A Path Towards Mindful Time-Management
Time-management is challenging on a good day. Add the extra hustle and bustle of the holiday season and it is easy to get overwhelmed. Multiple projects pop up simultaneously, leading to anxiety and frustration around dropping the proverbial ball.
Contrary to popular belief, we now know that focusing on one project at a time rather than trying to multi-task actually leads to more efficiency and accuracy. Articles in Forbes and Time also lay out how the process of trying to multi-task can actually be harmful. Surprised? I sure was.
Read More»A Simple Fix to Help With Connection
- At November 08, 2017
- By Holly Birkeland
- In Bad Habits, Connection
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If you and your partner are complaining that you lack connection, you might be guilty of this:
After a day at work, you come in the door, shout out a “I’m home,” and the dog bounds over to greet you, letting you know with a wildly wagging tail how happy he is to see you. Your voice goes to a sing song-y, “Who’s a good boy”; you’re happy to see the dog too. You see your wife or your husband but all you get is a glance, the phone gets all the attention.
Read More»Helping Moms Create a Mindfulness Practice
Most moms run on auto-pilot more often than they’d like. They plow through their days with determination and focus, and fall into bed exhausted yet satisfied that their to-do lists are completed. They plan meals, negotiate housework, shuttle kids to and from school (while playing their Suzuki CDs no less), and steal a few precious minutes at the end of it all for themselves and their partners. This is not to say that dads don’t do these things either, because they do. But as a whole, moms still take on a disproportionate amount of housework in our society, even if they also work outside the home. Interestingly, this seems to be less of an issue for same-sex couples. At any rate, this article is for moms who feel like they multi-task all the time, and feel stressed and rather unfulfilled because of it. My message to these moms (and I am one of you) is simple: Develop a mindfulness practice.
Read More»Got an Autocorrect Problem?
Has your relationship got an autocorrect problem?
A few days ago I engaged in a conversation that I frequently have with couples. They were discussing a recent argument, and one of them said with frustration: “I told her I was sorry, but she can never accept that.” The partner in question replied, “You were just trying to end the argument.”
Years ago I would have gone on a fact-finding mission with this couple. I would have tried to figure out who was right: was he just trying to get out of it, or was she resistant to making up? Nowadays I see something else going on—and it reminds me of the autocorrect on my phone.
Read More»Ten Tips for Revealing and Discussing Infidelity
If you are considering revealing infidelity or infidelity has been discovered, these tips may help you to minimize damage and to set the foundation for repair, if that is what you desire. If the goal is recovery as a couple, it’s important to be intentional from the beginning. If you get mired in holding back information, denial, blurring facts, minimizing, and blaming, it will be more challenging to repair and rebuild trust. These are general guidelines. If you have special circumstances, such a partner with a history of depression, for example, do consider speaking with a counselor or therapist for more appropriate guidance tailored to your particular relationship.
Ten Tips for Revealing and Discussing Infidelity
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