Holly Birkeland


M.A. • LICENSED MARRIAGE AND FAMILY THERAPIST (LMFT), AAMFT APPROVED SUPERVISOR

Holly Birkeland

Holly Birkeland

Holly’s perspective

Holly’s background

Contact information

Fees and Hours



Holly’s Perspective

I specialize in couples counseling because I am intrigued by how we get stuck in habits that make us wonder about whether we matter to our partner. To know that we have an intense emotional connection to the person we choose to be with-the deep belief that we matter- I think is paramount to what an enduring, intimate relationship is about.

I work with couples of all ages, but those that move me and challenge me the most are in mid-life. Consider all of the challenges occurring during this time, from child rearing to child launching, to helping elderly parents, to worries about money and being able to plan for retirement, to fighting over the same issues without resolution, to sex drive differences or other physical changes, to just plain growing apart. Sadly, middle-age is often a time when marital satisfaction decreases, when busy couples can lose sight of the importance of nurturing their relationship and struggle with the question, do I matter to you?

But I believe that how you weather these challenges has a lot to do with the kind of patterns you’ve established throughout your relationship. In therapy, we can explore those patterns and work on altering those that keep getting you stuck. Like any change you attempt, it takes work and it can be difficult, but it is very satisfying to have worked with so many couples who change how they relate and find a closer connection and more satisfaction with new patterns designed to nurture their relationship.
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Holly’s Background

I have advanced training in Gottman Method Couples Therapy  and use principles of numerous therapeutic models that invite you to create insight and self-awareness. My style is friendly, collaborative, empathic, and non-judgmental.

I’ve been married 30 years and have three children now in young adulthood. My Master’s degree in Marriage and Family Therapy is from St. Mary’s University; my undergraduate degree is from the University of Minnesota. I have had careers in television news and advertising, contributing to my understanding of busy career lives, career fulfillment, and transition.
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Contact information

I work with people of various ethnicities, cultures, and sexual orientation. I’d be honored to hear your story and explore your goals. Please contact me for a free thirty-minute consultation, which is a good opportunity to see if we’re a good fit before we begin working together. You can also contact me by phone at 952-806-0016.
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Holly’s fees and hours

I am available Mondays, Tuesdays, and Fridays from 8:30-3:30 and on Wednesdays and Thursdays from 1:00-7:30.  See Holly’s updated fees.



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