Little Things that Keep a Marriage Strong
What are happily married people doing that keeps them connected?
It turns out that strong marriages are built on little things that partners do every day. One of those daily things is staying in close touch with your partner’s inner world. Happily married people generally know what worries their partner has, and also know what their partner is looking forward to doing on any given day.
Many people do this well when they are dating, but over time will start to assume they know exactly what their partner is thinking and feeling. Often people in my office will say, “I know exactly what is on his/her mind.” Not surprisingly they often find that what they thought they knew was wrong.
Have you moved into the “management” phase of marriage, where most of your conversations revolve around the plumber, the kids, and the mortgage? If so you’ve probably lost track of your partner’s world. Try taking time in the evening before bed or in the morning over breakfast to find out more about what is on your partner’s mind. Research shows that your marriage will be stronger if you take the time to learn three things about your partner’s day every day.