Pre-Holiday Relationship Check
Time for a pre-holiday relationship check?
As we get closer to the holiday season, schedules start to fill up with errands to run, events to attend, and people to see. If we are not careful, we can say yes to a lot of good things and end up with little energy for the best things – the relationships with the people we love the most.
Start your season right with these simple tactics:
Read More»What Kind of Help Do You Really Need?
Who can’t complain of an excess of demands and a shortage of time and patience? It’s harder when you feel that you can’t get the help you need from your partner. How do you ask for help? And just what do you really need?
Read More»Navigating Explosive Emotion and Rage After Infidelity
Navigating Explosive Emotion and Rage After Infidelity
If there has been infidelity in your relationship, it’s highly likely that the betrayed person has or will at some point become extremely emotional and/or enraged. This often happens when this person does not feel heard, understood, or validated, or that you do not understand the profound impact of the infidelity or the depth of the pain you have caused. Sometimes it comes as a result of wanting you to experience a fraction of the pain he or she is experiencing. If you respond with defensiveness or with moving away, the anger or emotion may escalate.
Read More»A Simple Fix to Help With Connection
- At November 08, 2017
- By Holly Birkeland
- In Bad Habits, Connection
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If you and your partner are complaining that you lack connection, you might be guilty of this:
After a day at work, you come in the door, shout out a “I’m home,” and the dog bounds over to greet you, letting you know with a wildly wagging tail how happy he is to see you. Your voice goes to a sing song-y, “Who’s a good boy”; you’re happy to see the dog too. You see your wife or your husband but all you get is a glance, the phone gets all the attention.
Read More»3 Tips for Being a Happier Parent
“It sucks. Parenting sucks.”
Chances are that you have thought (or said) something similar if you are a parent. Clients have certainly said this to me on a number of occasions. Meeting the demands of parenting is tough, and can leave you feeling more drained than fulfilled. Not only must you juggle multiple priorities at once (attending to needs at home, in the workplace, in the community, within your larger family), but you feel a pressure to juggle with a smile on your face.
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