What Kind of Help Do You Really Need?
Who can’t complain of an excess of demands and a shortage of time and patience? It’s harder when you feel that you can’t get the help you need from your partner. How do you ask for help? And just what do you really need?
Read More»Got Three Minutes for Your Relationship?
Want to change your relationship in just three minutes a day? Here’s how: Every day tell your partner one thing that he or she did that mattered to you, and say how it made you feel. For example, you might say, “Thanks for doing the dishes before I got home. It sure is nice to come home to a clean kitchen.”
Why does this work? Appreciation gives up feedback about what we are doing right and how it affects others. Most of the time we give more correction than appreciation–our feedback is often neutral or negative. Appreciation gives a clear picture that we notice our partner and we like what he or she is doing. Appreciation also increases the chance that he or she will do it again!