Turn Towards Instead of Tuning Out
Do you ever tune out your partner or just give him or her half of your attention?
We’re all guilty of not really tuning in sometimes when someone is talking to us. We may not even realize what we are doing.
But it turns out that these small interactions are powerful…
In fact whether we tune in or tune out can show whether a relationship is heading toward success or failure according to research conducted at The Gottman Institute.
Read More»Negative Sentiment Over-ride
- At September 02, 2015
- By Aysem Senyurekli
- In Fighting, Mood, Uncategorized
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Are you experiencing Negative Sentiment Over-ride?
Are you constantly mad at your partner?
Are you expecting to be disappointed even before a problem arises?
Do you keep comparing your partner to someone else?
Do you find it difficult to remember why you are even together?
Read More»Women, Men, and Stress
- At May 13, 2015
- By Jennifer Stoos
- In Brain Science, Fighting, Uncategorized
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Do women and men experience and deal with stress differently? Popular opinions range from the “no differences” proposition to the “different planets altogether” idea. But what does the current science suggest about how men and women react under stress? Many studies point toward the idea that our hormones affect our physical and mental experience of stress, and influence how we interact with others when we are under stress. Here are a few studies that might be of interest.
Diet and Depression
Are diet and depression related? Almost everyone has foods they associate with comfort, and some people notice how different meals affect their levels of energy or alertness. But did you know that if you are struggling with depression, you may want to see a nutritionist and consider changing your diet?
Read More»Talking about Affairs: Healing the Hurt
- At April 26, 2015
- By Holly Birkeland
- In Affairs, Fighting, Sleep, Uncategorized
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You had an affair and your partner found out. While you understand the hurt and anger, you also fear it will never end. The rages surprise both of you, and leave you exhausted and disconnected.
You’ve said you’re sorry so many times you wonder if it is meaningful to say it again.
Read More»Talking about Sex: Differences in Desire
- At April 26, 2015
- By Holly Birkeland
- In Growing Closer, Sex, Uncategorized
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Sex is a challenge for many couples. Do these situations sound familiar to you?
- Your partner wants sex more often than you do, and you feel guilty about it, or
- You feel unloved/unattractive/undesirable because your partner doesn’t want to have sex with you
- You don’t touch your partner much anymore because touch is interpreted as attempt to have sex, and the rejection is killing you, or
- You move away from your partner when you get touched because your partner just wants sex
Differences in desire are common. Here are a couple of things to think about:
Read More»Look for the Beauty
- At September 06, 2013
- By Jennifer Stoos
- In Uncategorized
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109 year old Holocaust survivor Alice Somer Herz has wisdom that couples could use. After all that she experienced she notes that she sees the difficult parts of life, but looks for what is beautiful–and finds beauty all around. We often let our stress rebound on the people closest to us, and we forget to look for what is beautiful about them (and tell them what we see). Take a few minutes today to look for the beauty in your partner. Remember, you chose your partner for a reason!
Rekindle Counseling in the News
- At August 03, 2012
- By Jennifer Stoos
- In Uncategorized
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Our own Holly Birkeland appeared in the Star Tribune recently talking about strengthening relationships. Read the article online at the Star Tribune.